“If you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” Henry Ford
I got the biggest breakthroughs in my healing journey when I became aware of, and got to work on, having a healthy MINDSET. After I cleared my SIBO I “should” have been happy. “Should” have been out there enjoying my life. “Living the dream in Bali”.
But I wasn’t. My life wasn’t a dream on the inside, it was a nightmare. .
I was so tormented I wanted to crawl out of my skin. Filled with so much self-hatred I didn’t want anyone to even see me, so I hid myself away and became really isolated.
Did the inner work = everything started to flow. My health. My relationships. My business. Things that seemed overwhelmingly hard became simple and enjoyable. I had never really “got” the “INNER CHILD” stuff before. Until one day my healer / spiritual teacher / coach said to me:
“If a lost little 5 year old girl turned up on your doorstep, what would you do to make her feel safe?” My first answer? “Feed her”. (For around a year after SIBO I struggled a lot with binge eating).
My next answer after I thought about it? How could I make this little girl feel safe? Give her my undivided attention”. That felt good. And then another thing she said to me really helped. She introduced me to the concept of the “Inner Parent”. If an upset child wants a bowl of ice cream, it could be loving to give her a bowl of ice cream. But it wouldn’t be loving and nurturing to give her five.
With the child’s best interests at heart, a loving parent would perhaps instead find another way to make her child feel good. Maybe by going for a swim? Playing in the park? Spending some time drawing?
There are other ways to make ourselves feel safe other than with food. So now if I’m feeling out of sorts, I’ll have a little check in with my inner child. What’s up? What NEED is not being met? How can I lovingly and nurturingly make my inner child feel good?
It might feel weird and fake in the beginning (did for me). But the more you do it, the more it feels right. Mindset is such a huge part of healing. Cultivating a healthy mindset through things like meditation is also incredibly important.
If you haven’t already, I invite you to check out Joe Dispenza. He’s amazing. He’s got some awesome books I highly recommend: Breaking the habit of Being Yourself, Becoming Supernatural, You are the Placebo. And this is a cool interview with him on You Tube (sorry, not a clickable link):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MggxikOZN80
You can copy that out or search for “Heal your body WITH YOUR MIND: Dr Joe Dispenza”.
Our mindset plays such an important role in our health. You can’t achieve true physical health unless you look after your emotional health. And vice versa. Our physical health can really have an impact on our emotional health. Take the time to find someone that you feel safe working with. It’ll really fast track your healing.
I 100% believe it.
I believe in you. .
Lots of love,
Kirsten x x x
